Live for you.

You would THINK that I committed a murder.

Or that I shot someone's grandma.

You would THINK... by the looks, the rumors... that I should be locked up somewhere.  But I'm sorta a prisoner in my own town anyway!

Life happens and people do things you don't expect. BUT you have to remember that you don't know all the sides of the story, ever. So before you start throwing daggers or spreading rumors, ask yourself if YOU'VE ever done something that wasn't expected. If you haven't, you're not living life!

See, when my boyfriend and I "came out" to the world, I knew I was in for an uphill battle. He was the ex of a not-so-great friend, and A LOT of worry went into the idea of a relationship. I knew people wouldn't like it-- especially her. But you get to the point in your life where you have to start living for YOU, because there's no one else on the planet who will make sure that happens. Did I think it would cause some trouble? Yes. Did I think that almost 9 months later I'd still be dealing with it? UH, NO.

All the things that people had said about him might've been true back then. But people change and sometimes for the better. And at the very least, different people bring out the best or worst in others. MAYBE... all the things people "knew" about him had everything to do with his ex. Do you really know? Did you care enough at the time to find out the truth, or was it more entertaining for you to gossip and create your own version? I digress. Not the point.

So what I did... was it a crime? No. People are meant to be with people. The fact that we found each other after he was with my "friend" doesn't make it any different than if we were two strangers that found each other. Life goes on, people move on...

But I know it's hard to believe the girl who rocked your friend's world. Because to her, I am THE worst person to ever live, and LORD ONLY KNOWS what's been said about me. I live in a smaller town and people will always talk.

But it's fine. I know the truth, and I don't miss one single person who has turned against me. They were not assets to my life. I just wish that they understood that we are all adults here, and sometimes people end up working out despite what everyone else thinks.... and it's not out of spite, or to cause any harm. It's because they want to be together and deserve it as much as the next couple. Being catty and hateful because YOU think it's wrong makes YOU look pitiful. Especially when YOU weren't even involved to begin with.

Live your life, people! Worry about you and yours. Let others deal with their own drama, despite how close you are with them. That's THEIR life to live. And when you're handed drama, deal with it in the most mature way you know how. It's going to happen, no doubt about it-- but there's a way to manage it and a way to make yourself look crazy.

Your choice.